By DekaRed - 9 Apr 20 1:58 PM
I have spent time in prison for sexual offences, and am on the register with a SHOPO. One of the conditions says "not allowed to be around children, unless their parent or guardian is there"
I am currently very friendly with a lady, who is a grandmother. All her kids are around 40, and she occasionally plays host to her grandchildren who range from 3-21. I have met some of her grown-up children, who know about my friendliness with their mother.
I have disclosed to the lady in question, and she supports me fully. My question is, is that as far as the disclosures need to go? She may be completely understanding and supportive, but if I also have to disclose to her children, it may cause huge problems.
We have not entered into a relationship yet for a number of reasons, and this is something we are both quite concerned with. If I was to ever be around the grandchildren, would their parents need to know about me, or is their grandmother knowing sufficient? It is unlikely I would ever be around them without the grandmother being present.
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By Mr W - 26 Apr 20 4:10 PM
Hi Punter99, I agree with most of what you say, PPUs are in a tough position, but there seems to be more arse covering at the misery of the ex-offender than progression. I've yet to find a legitimate channel to call them out especially when they have an SJW-esque mode, and as that Lancs police officer said the other day on an unrelated matter: "Who are they going to believe" (he apologised). I know you've talked about disclosure generally here, but how did you find disclosing to friends etc what were their reactions? post-conviction etc
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Hi Khafka,
I was shocked re: lack of knowledge around doxxing because the removal of the information, similar to the problem of revenge porn, can be a nightmare. Once it's out there, it's out there and one's personal details are critical in terms of feeling safe in your own home. Especially when some go one step further, with phone numbers etc. I too was doxxed, thankfully only social media stuff, but it certainly wasn't info that was "publicly available" they had to really search to find it. But it's an important point about why moving forward is made more difficult, when just one person links new name with old in one of those stupid groups then it's all over, an undeserved 'second wave' of punishment and yes, don't get me started on vigilante groups.
Overall, the question must be asked of rehabilitation of these offences, what does true rehabilitation look like in our current society when disclosure is SO debilitating.
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