I'll add that although I wanted to maintain contact with my children, I wouldn't have wanted them to see me in prison because the visits room isn't usually a pleasant environment for children. Credit to HMP Ashfield for really making an attempt at creating a child-friendly playroom, but none of the others I experienced were anywhere near as good as that. Even before I was arrested, my wife was using contact as a weapon, so it was always going to be difficult. One of my mates also had a hostile wife, but his parents maintained contact with his sons and when his oldest son was eighteen, the first thing he did was write to his dad in prison to establish contact. Obviously, every case is different, but even going to prison doesn't have to be the end of the story. I'd also say don't worry about their identities being revealed. Visitors aren't announced like at a formal dinner at a stately home, and there aren't generally crowds of paparazzi waiting outside to photograph kids who are visiting.