+xI’ve put a lot of thought into tackling this same issue myself. The best thing I’ve come up with is this: John Matthew Smith 1. Change surname, nobody really thinks twice about surname changes. John Matthew Jones. Or, if that’s not enough. 2. I’m going for flipping forenames AND changing the surname. Matthew John Jones. Then you can say you “used to go by your middle name”. You can still be known by John to some people. Any certificates ‘made a mistake' with the order of the name. This isn’t a 100% water-tight method, but as I say, it’s the best I can think of. I'm all ears for any other ideas as I'm struggling too. First of all I can't believe it was two years ago when I was replying on this thread. I find the past three years especially have gone insanely fast. Which in some respects is fine because it gets me closer to the day I can put all this behind me, but still, it's three years I can't get back. Anyway, I've changed my name by deed poll. I originally downloaded the forms off the government website and got witnesses to sign them, but solicitors seemed wary of putting their name to something they hadn't been involved with at the start (and the cheaper option for me), so instead they offer the option of doing it for you (at a cost, of course) and it avoids publication in some London newspaper (read more about this on enrolled versus unenrolled name change) What did I change? So if my name was John Matthew Smith, my name is now Matthew John Jones. Newer people in my life already know me as "Matthew", while others will still call me "John". What did I do? I went to a local solicitor, gave them my birth certificate, driving licence and told them my new name. They drafted the deed (essentially a Word doc saying that I relinquish my old name and this is my new name). I took that to a different solicitor who signed it (for £10 fee). Then the original solicitor gives you the original deed and some stamped photocopies. It's been a very easy process. The hard part is changing everything you're attached to. I've made a list and it keeps on increasing. My first port of call was obviously the police station. They were fine about it. I'm now waiting for my driving licence and then I'll apply for a new passport. I've also been spending time closing a lot of online accounts, especially to do with money, so PayPal, Foreign currency cards, Crypto accounts, Bet365/gambling sites etc I'd rather sign up 'as new' with a new name, rather than inform them I've changed my name then it severs any chances of connections. This is unavoidable in some cases, like GP/NHS, electoral role. With my bank, I'm going to change my name with the bank but then leave that bank. Happy to answer any questions.
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