Well, first of all, there was a very sound reason why you had to do what you did. That should be part of any disclosure. The follow-on from that is that the situation was already very stressful and now it's worse, which is why you didn't disclose at the time. If your job involves driving, then while you're disqualified that is an issue. Having said that, a DR10 conviction isn't spent for five years, because of the motoring endorsement from the court, in case you weren't aware of that. In any case, Unlock has information about self-disclosure statements here
, so hopefully that will be helpful with the practical side of dealing with this. A self-disclosure statement is always useful anyway, but when you have traumatic personal information to disclose as well, having a statement composed and printed in the calm and safety of your own space is much less stressful than disclosing verbally without preparation. I hope it goes well for you.
As Chris Stacey said: Although its not formally part of the sentence that is handed down in court, the criminal record that someone comes away with effectively becomes a second sentence, which can have a long-lasting, if not lifelong, impact.