That was one of my biggest things once offence was more publicly known. Just constantly Googling myself and reading comments on social media and whatnot about me. If you ever want an argument against democracy then just read some comments on Facebook, that's all I'll say...

Hi Both

Thanks for your reply

Dc23 i'm honestly thrilled you didn't get charged and it hasn't progressed, must be such a relief. like i say 1 year later and i'm still awaiting.

Had the extended bail application this week, with the numbers of evidence ect on there. came as a bit of a shock as i hadn't realised how bad it had gotten. on the plus side this has given me time to come to terms with it.

Looking at a 2nd interview back end of September and then waiting for courts ect will probs take me in 2024. 

Honestly without the support I'd received I'd be lost in Limbo.

And as far as money goes I'm aware at the extended period of unemployment I'm looking at. I was debating going doing a degree or something for a few years, i'm educated to A level so wouldn't need access course or anything and i'm aware some people in this situation have had succsess getting onto them with none-contact offences.

Seems fairly promising and would fill in the unemployment gap once my conviction is spent.

I'm currently in mid-late 20's so if i get a 10 year SHPO and appeal at the 5 yr mark it's gona be early 30's which i think isn't too late to start getting things back on track .

As stated in my previous comments my logic is to accept what has happened, take preventative measures to make sure this unacceptable behaviour never happens again, pay the price and work to become a contributing member of society once again.

I think we need a lot more success story's in this community so that those who have fallen prey to this can get back up off the ground and rebuild themselves and hopefully never re-offend

I intend to document every step of the way to give a clear understanding of the process and how i combat the many obstacles that lie ahead 

my opinion of the media has massively changed ofer the last few weeks. it's funny how something like this gives you a whole new perspective. pretty much any other crime is explainable and is possible for society to forgive. but any sexual offence hitting the media, and you get a life sentance basically unless you change your name, move away etc. it was my biggest fear throughout the whole thing, even though solicitor indicated the chances of media picking up on it would be highly unlikely

thanks mate...it's funny i spent weeks not believing what was happening to me now i'm struggling to believe it's really over! i was in 2 minds whether to even post my situation becuase i know that many on here won't get the outcome i did.

it's great that you have that support network. i'm not sure how i'd have coped as the months passed...i believe at some point i'd have had to tell someone or i don't know what i'd have done.

hang in there...you've got a really positive outlook on the whole thing and as you say, age is very much on your side!

Yeah! I mentioned it quite a while ago here on this forum but by the time a court case hits the media it's gone through so many filters. Bit like a weird game of Chinese whispers. Actual Offence Occurring

1. Arrest/Interview/Evidence gathering stage
   
2. What are you're actually charged with
3. Initial court date - Remember the prosecution wants to get a conviction so they'll try put you in the worst light possible
4. Potential first media report - Remember this will be tweaked in order to eyes on the article
5. Follow up court date - Your defence/mitigation depending on circumstances
6. Potential second media report - Adding potentially more tweaked and out of context quotes to add onto their initial report
7. Conviction - Where you're officially convicted of Crime-X
8. Potential third media report - Again adding extra bits
9. Sentencing - Officially sentenced and sent on your way
10. Final media report putting it all together - Again, remember they want to sell papers/clicks
11. Potential social media groups jumping in - They could jump in earlier, especially if you're reported earlier but again, they tend to have set agendas so there will be more twisted words and quotes to influence some ragebaiting.
    

Hi
Though my pre-conviction career was good and lucky, post conviction has not been the same.
At your age, and if wishing to "reboot" your career, may I suggest you look seriously at undertaking some sort of "business"studies course as a foundation? Reason being is that more than likey you will probably undertake freelance roles in the future. Understanding business models will allow you the flexibility of offering so more more to any role you wish to follow. If your into computers, then it is also important as an extra offering to various roles within that "service" that are not client facing. My last role was Project Management, HR etc but I had to work with the Finance etc heads who wanted/required me to understand their roles more than they did me.

In other words "Interconectivity" (favorite word of mind) makes you aware of the maze of interactions with areas you did not think about, but if you are aware you can create an image of the "goto" individual and help rebuild the respect from others.

Learn from yesterday, live for today, hope is for tomorrow else what is left if you remove a mans hope.

Hi Jasb

It's funny you should say that, One of my A levels is actually in Business studies so definitely a good footing to go onto further education in the role i think, it was something i always found interesting at college so may be a good opportunity to advance those skills and put them to use?

As always appreciate the input.

Take care man

Totally agree, I spent a long time blaming 'Google' and various other websites.  Now I recognise we have to take responsibility for our own actions.