Well done for trying for what you think is right, it’s brave and you’re well within your rights to do so. Helpfully, for the rest of us, we know it’s not going to work if we try the same thing. I know that’s probably not much comfort but we appreciate it.
The thing is with these groups/publications of any sort is that they’re regurgitating what is largely factual (I say largely with caveats of granular detail). Out of the blue, I appeared in the press for a second time (the paper that Liverpool hates), I was a small paragraph in a story 15 MONTHS after my court appearance, I hadn’t done anything it just regurgitated what happened to me the previous year. There was nothing I could do because it was factual. Another thing we just have to put up with regardless of the devastating impact it has on our mental health. Cue, again, the Caroline Flack debate…
The fact is our history leaves a scar. My issue, in terms of rehabilitation and disclosure, is that we can’t OWN any of it. For example, if someone who has been in trouble with drugs there can be an air of sympathy to those who speak out and say: “I had a problem with drugs and I’ve overcome it,” that is owning it and creates the reason to support them. We can’t do that, if we say: “I did X and now I’ve stopped,” we’d get told “Well you shouldn’t have done that in the first place!… the victims… creating market… etc etc etc.” Even though, the exact same things apply to ANY crime. And, perhaps, it doesn’t come as a shock that I’m seeing more “breached his SHPO” newspaper stories appearing. Rather than screaming ‘where’s the rehabilitation?’ or 'perhaps these don't work? what else can we do?' society just says ‘good, lock him up and throw away the key’.
Fighting or Accepting - its difficult to know which is right and when.